Be yourself. When you meet someone for the first time, you may be tempted in trying to be someone you're not, such as "putting on your best face". However, it is possible to take this too far and in turn repel men. The same applies with myths about dressing sexy and excessive flirtation. Good men respond negatively when girls go overboard on these items, and may not take you seriously anymore. Be yourself, and a real man will respect you.
Be relaxed and cool. Most guys hate it when girls are possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen". Having a woman around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate.
Realize differences in communication. It's no secret, women are much better at reading body language than men. Unfortunately for men, 80% of all communication is body language. Since men are not as good at reading body language and rely more on "say what you mean" communication, men can miss the subtle messages that women send in their body language. Don't judge a guy because of this. It's just the way men are. Subtle body language like smiles only make a man think that you might like him. More "obvious" body language like playful jabs to the arm or attempts to find a man's ticklish spots not only show him you like him enough to get that physical and playful, but also help to break the physical barrier and allow a man to feel more comfortable making a few advances.
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy, for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so bad, be truly honest with yourself, and if need be talk to a therapist about this. A woman with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good real man doesn't want anything to do with a woman who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.
Drop the games. A problem men have with women is the fact that they like to play "head games". This all goes back to being honest and healthy. Be real, don't play games, and good men will pursue and respect you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. It's not that men don't like the thrill of the chase - many love it - but sending mixed "I like you, I don't like you" signals confuses and frustrates a good man and he'll lose interest. Remember, men communicate directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him.
Treat him like a man. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave woman who tries to emasculate him. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.
Don't be afraid to make a move. Let's be real, a good man doesn't desperately need any woman, he would like to meet a good woman.
Be relaxed and cool. Most guys hate it when girls are possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen". Having a woman around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate.
Realize differences in communication. It's no secret, women are much better at reading body language than men. Unfortunately for men, 80% of all communication is body language. Since men are not as good at reading body language and rely more on "say what you mean" communication, men can miss the subtle messages that women send in their body language. Don't judge a guy because of this. It's just the way men are. Subtle body language like smiles only make a man think that you might like him. More "obvious" body language like playful jabs to the arm or attempts to find a man's ticklish spots not only show him you like him enough to get that physical and playful, but also help to break the physical barrier and allow a man to feel more comfortable making a few advances.
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy, for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so bad, be truly honest with yourself, and if need be talk to a therapist about this. A woman with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good real man doesn't want anything to do with a woman who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.
Drop the games. A problem men have with women is the fact that they like to play "head games". This all goes back to being honest and healthy. Be real, don't play games, and good men will pursue and respect you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. It's not that men don't like the thrill of the chase - many love it - but sending mixed "I like you, I don't like you" signals confuses and frustrates a good man and he'll lose interest. Remember, men communicate directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him.
Treat him like a man. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave woman who tries to emasculate him. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.
Don't be afraid to make a move. Let's be real, a good man doesn't desperately need any woman, he would like to meet a good woman.
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