HOW TO DUMP SOMEONE NICELY

Take these tips so you don't hurt your future EX too much

• Decide what you’re going to say – come up with a good reason which will give him some closure – we all need to know why it didn’t work – then work out when you’re going to deliver the speech.
  

• Don’t attempt to mother him in the meantime. Because you know it’s coming, there’s a tendency for us to feel sorry for him and be all sweet. Don’t. it’s misleading.
  

• Sit him down and deliver the speech. He’ll react one of two ways: he’ll look at you, hurt, then leave without saying much. Or he’ll get angry and accuse you of all sorts. Needless to say if he’s the violent type –and what the hell were you doing going out with him anyway?! – do it in a public place with a male friend sitting outside in a car!
  

• If he didn’t say much, call him the next day. Women ask the ‘But why?’ questions at the time, he’s often in shock or not thinking on his feet. He probably only heard half of what you said because ‘I can’t believe she’s doing this’ took over. It could take a while to sink in. Ask if he’s okay and if there’s anything he doesn’t understand. If he doesn’t want to talk, fine. But he might need to know some answers and be too proud to pick up the phone.

• Now call one of his friends. The one you got on best with. No need to go into detail, just say ‘Look I thought you should know I’ve just broken up with X and he might need a bit of cheering up’. The thing is, while you might want to help him get over you, you can’t. It’s you he’s trying to get over, remember!